What is it about recovering addicts that's makes their family members so un-willing to trust them again? Well let's see if I can't answer that for you. It's is a job to love some body unconditionally, we the family members take it upon ourselves, whether through blood or marriage to choose to love you unconditionally. But do not think for one moment that means you can just take our love and break it. Don't believe that you can take the trust you are given break it and then ask for more. See being a family member is a two way street. In order to continue receiving our unconditional love, and our trust; you must continue to not take it for granted. And that is why it is hard for us family members to be willing to trust addicted family members again. We did once, we will again. But first you must earn this trust. Otherwise what is the point of being family. While your busy using drugs and your family, we are trying to save you. Some of us win, but most of loose. In my case I lost. You may still be alive, but you have let your flame die. And what hurts the most is the thought that I once was the spark that had relighted your flame. So no. I do not trust you. I'm hurt, I am angry, I have no reason to trust you. Until you change that, that's how it will be.
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